Are you a good child? Have you been doing everything that your family tells you to do, because they want the best for you and want you to be happy? If yes then you’re someone who they are probably really proud off.
But now I have another question….are you happy? Is everything you’re putting effort in really what you want? Are the beliefs and ambitions of your family something that you believe in?
Now let me start off the topic by saying that this is a little something I decided to write because of the things that happened (and are happening) to me in my life. This is not a topic where I’m telling you to not listen to adults, because that would be stupid!
What I’m going to be talking about today is what parents and adults in families tend to do to the children, that in reality they should let the kid choose.
Parents have a obligation to make sure their children grow up to be good members of society, to provide them with a home, food, love, care, education, lectures, etc. But the problem is that sometimes parents and family tend to make decisions that affect their kids lives even if they like it or not. The cause of that can be many different reasons:
- they want their child to be successful
- they want their child to be something that they couldn’t be
- they want their child to have a lot of money
- they want to show off success and class
- they believe it’s what their child want’s (and needs)
- etc. (you get the idea)
But sometimes, being successful in life and have a lot of money isn’t exactly what everyone wants. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not saying people want to be poor and miserable all their lives no…I never said that (I’m a person who want’s a normal life and earn enough money to support a family in the future), but sometimes, your children don’t want what you want. Adults have a tendency to go against a their child and his wishes, because it isn’t the same as theirs.
An example would be: A boy really want’s to play soccer. His dad was a football player and therefore he wants his son to play football. The boy doesn’t like football but he isn’t getting much of a choice, because his father will press on him to play a sport he doesn’t want to play, instead of playing the sport he loves.
A different example is career choice. Where I come from you usually don’t have until the end of High School to chose a path, but you are given the option to chose a career specific high school (anything form Medical High school to Electronic high school), which makes a lot of us choose what to do at the age of 14-15, and not at the age of 18. A good example for this is someone I know. She wanted to become a school teacher. She was admitted to a school specificity for that because of her good grades and referrals from her teachers because they knew she would make a excellent teacher. Her mom believed that that wasn’t a good enough job for her, and she forced her to to law school (she gave her a choice to go to law school or she’d “give up on her”). Now when you live in the US and you’re 18 you almost wouldn’t care as much….but a 15 year old kid with that kind of decision….yea we all know what’s gonna happen. She didn’t like law school…and she never graduated from Law College either because of it.
So what’s the main point of this? Do what makes you happy! Pursue what you want in life (and i’m not saying to take it easy and flip burgers for the rest of your life….unless it makes you happy…which would be kinda hard to believe….but ok). If you want to be a teacher, be a teacher! You like cars and you want to work on cars for the rest of your life…do that! You want to be a cook, puppet master, actor, artist, dance, singer, rapper, scientist, politician, doctor, dentist, mall cop, special agent……whatever! You get the basic idea now…and the same goes for sports!
Do what makes YOU HAPPY…BUT DON’T SLACK OFF AND DO NOTHING…I’m not saying not to be productive in life either,
Okay that’s it for now. Considering this turned out to be waaaaaaay longer than I hoped I’m going to split this topic in 2 or 3 different posts (that are going to be shorter since this also had the introduction in it).
Have fun everyone and I’ll see you next time with the second part of this little topic that is gonna piss off a lot of parents that are gonna read this.
Luca S. Kuhar